If you want to pick up chicks or if you want to find a girlfriend, you are going to need to show her that you are interested in one way or another. Some of these methods are very old and are tried and true, and some of them are just common sense. Either way, understanding women isn’t the rocket science that it’s made out to be, and you shouldn’t feel like you are up a creek when it comes to the ladies. The biggest part of hooking up is being nice and knowing what to do to appeal and let your interest be known without being a jerk about it.
If you are going out to get with women, or if you have a date, dress up. While there are some women who will still want to sleep with you despite your dingy t-shirt and your torn jeans, there will be far more who will like you better with styled hair and fashionable clothing. Go for something memorable but not brash, and remember to wear a nice scent without going overboard. If you make an effort to dress well, she will be guaranteed to notice.
Make sure that you smile when you are talking- and listening- to her. This lets her know that you are genuinely interested in what she has to say and that you like being around her and that you enjoy her company. That is the quintessential step in letting her know that you are interested in her. So smile kindly and make sure that you are genuine with it, because a nice smile goes a long way for anyone.
Listen with an Open Posture
This means actually listening when she talks, not just pretending to listen. Face her, and keep your chest open. Lean in towards her and maintain eye contact, and nod or respond when appropriate. The fastest way into a girl’s heart is through open conversation and good listening skills. If you can learn to be genuinely interested in what you are discussing at the time, you’ll have to beat them off with a stick.
Gently Touch Her Shoulder
The shoulder is both a safe zone and an indicator of your interest. A gentle touch to the shoulder can make a world of difference in what you are communicating. Whether it is a gentle tap of appreciation and humor or wrapping your arm around her when it is cold, these gestures are signs that you are ready to go a little further with where you are. Always be gentle and subtle, and you will be able to catch her attention is a suave and sexy way.
Push Back Her Hair
If you are really getting comfortable with each other and she is also showing signs of interest, there is nothing better than a well-timed lean in to brush back a hair that has fallen astray or tucking a lock behind her ear to better see her face. Don’t do this if you aren’t sure she is returning you feelings, as it goes from sensual to way too creepy in a second flat. Make sure to read the atmosphere first, and then lean in for the whisper and brush back.
Respect exactly what she wants. If she isn’t ready to have to sleep with you, don’t pressure her. If she doesn’t want to date, don’t get mad or try to argue. If you are gracious and kind, she will remember you, because so many guys aren’t. That kind of attitude can really work out for a guy, and she’ll be more likely to call you back if you are cool, kind, and respectful. She isn’t there to please you, she’s there for herself, and the quicker you get that, the more luck you’ll have with the ladies.
You can always just share what you are thinking. It’s important not to be too blunt about it, or you’ll ruin the mood, but asking is important. If she says yes, awesome, it worked! But a no is a no, and you should respect that and move on to someone else. You’ll be better off for it if you do.